Girl Nasty

what to say when talking nasty

Stop Bullying!

this is so complex and sad.basically 4 months ago i had no choice but to totally cut ties with my mother and my 2 half sisters due to mental bullying for a long time from the 3 of them and also incidents of child abuse(me)which my mom turned a blind eye to when i told her(it was 1 of my stepdads)there was even 1 incident where my mom stood and watched with my ex-stepdad being abusive but i confronted it with her,she denied she was there,but she didnt deny it happened.there has been so many things happen,unfortunate incidents ie-i was r*p*d and when i told my mom she told me it was MY fault,i learned never to confide in her after that so we drifted.im not sure why but im the outcast of the family.hence the bullying. anyways i only had the courage to send a letter to sever ties with them,the bullying was making me really ill and so anxious and the icing on the cake was i heard an accidental call,my mom left her mobile in her house while she went out to shops with 1 of my sisters,anywyas the phone call was to my mums mobile i picked it up as it was my sister my mum was with,i thought they forgot something or whatever-no it wasnt.i couldnt belive what i was hearing.they were talking about me saying really nasty things.1 was"did you see L****y its like shes never had a wash"of course my mother agreed and added nasty things to it(petty)(unrepeatable)so i hung up.(i hadnt washed my hair in 3 days)i always got the blame for everything and anything is always twisted to make it my fault and when they came back,i was crying and angry and they blamed the call on me saying"well we cant say that to your face cos you just push us away"so all i got was the phone call was my fault and i was in the wrong(im used to that now)its all petty and the list could go on and on but i have 2 kids my girl is 8 and my son is 3(my daughter is grandmas favourite and its well known my son is outcast and son feels this)so after i sent the letter to my mum and sisters and i got a nasty phone message from my mum(cheap-shots used to it anywyas)and a very slanderous evil email from 1 of my sisters.(i expected that) all i wanted was for me to be left alone to get on with my life(the letter i sent them to cut all ties was not a nasty letter i stated that no matter what i would always love them,told them why i cut ties i put everything down apart from my childhood.i didnt stop them from seeing my 2 kids as its not their fault,so they see them every friday.but without fail there is always a drama that i get to know about,basically in a petty way my family are now trying to get to me through my 8 year old daughter!they make remarks to her questioning my ability as a fit mother(they perceive me to be an unfit mom,im definitely not,im bipolar,ive had problems in the past,ive been stable on my meds for a very long time now,i have professionals to back me up which they had to couple of months back to my mom.
i find it so unhealthy and unfair that my lil girl is stuck in the middle here and shes told me shes heard things about me in a not so nice way(basically they are talking nasty about me in front of my kids)and now all of a sudden my family have a new best friend-my ex(kids dad whom we dont speak as he refused to provide child support,goes for a sleep when he had the kids and left them to fend for themselves and still did it after a telling off from social services and other things thats too long to write here)and my ex and my kids were invited to spend xmas dinner with the family to which my ex is going but of course i want to spend xmas with my kids and they want to spend it with me.so the kids are having a 2nd xmas at my moms on boxing day with their dad also(hes supervised when he sees them)as everyone will be fresh and a new day for all and the kids to enjoy their gifts.but my family are cleverly manipulating my daughter to the point where i feel im losing a bit of her every week and its breaking my heart and i feel sorry for my son cos he gets shoved to the side and is constantly picked on(my mom said all men should be shot at birth yet she always put men first before her own flesh and blood,sad but true.i have never been listened to which im used to but i need to make a stand for my kids sake.i cannot let them brainwash my daughter and for them to eventually turn her against me(their behaviour makes me think that)my sons only 3 so is too young to understand and im so distressed by it all,its not healthy for the kids or me,i feel that cutting ties with them was a waste of time as its getting carried on through my daughter poor soul,i dont know how to deal with this.my friends are very supportive(they know what my family are like)and they say they are wanting me to break./crack up and i hate to say it but its working:( now i couldnt care why im an outcast,and i couldnt care that theyre evil towards me(im used to it) but this is now effecting my kids but if i stopped access im actually scared to think what they would do/say im also waiting to he