What would you do if you found out your husband had been talking on the phone with another woman and …..?
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then sent her a picture of his genitals. He says he is sorry and I do know she propositioned him (she said she would drive from another state!) and he turned her down. We have been married two years and have had no major problems at all up until now. She basically tracked him down over the course of a year, calling his mom and begging for a his number. (An old teenage gf he hadn’t seen in 10 years. ) Then she kept calling after he told her to stop, bc I was with him when he told her and emailed her. She said she wanted to talk about how her son had died (hubby is a counselor. ) I told him not to talk to her. Well she called again. And he listened to her story. Then he said and she verified that she started talking nasty things to him . He should have hung up but didn’t . Then I found the picture and he told me everything. He then went and deleted all his email, IM,etc. accounts and told me to put a lock on the computer where he can’t get on. Then he switched phone numbers.
Do you think he really could have just made a mistake one time? I have never even seen him look at another woman. This is such a shock. I don’t want a divorce, what should we do?
I did give him an choice, never slip up again or leave. He was in tears and said he was ashamed and never wanted anything like this to happen again.
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Well by now he probably has her phone number and doesn’t need the computer or cell to get in touch. It could be a one time thing or maybe its the first time he got caught. Either way you have to decide if he is worth your time. If he is go to counseling.
Go together and alone. You need to figure out what you want. If he really loved you he would have never done it. Don’t trust the deleted accounts. Can you forgive what he has done? Forgetting is pretty hard also. Trust has been broken. Get counceling either way. Good Luck
Honey – he didn’t send her a picture of his d*#k by ACCIDENT. Give me a break! This guy has been CHEATING ON YOU. He is feeding this affair. People don’t email and call repeatedly if the receiver blocks them. He WANTED this to happen. You are seriously kidding yourself if you think this is all the "old girlfriends" fault.
Your husband is a pig and a coward.Why would he need to be locked out of the computer? Is he so infatuated with her that he can’t control himself? Go ahead and lock the computer…change the phone number – this WILL happen again because he is looking to cheat. Do you not see how this is his fault?
I am going to pray for you. Call a divorce lawyer please!
The boring answer is counseling….but its probably right here. Honey you dont want a husband who sends pics of his balls to people do you?
A lock on the PC is not the answer. How am I supposed to send you pics of my nuts?
That sucks. Chances are good that he’d have cheated if the opportunity presented itself. Lock up the pc? He has no self control? Sounds like he is looking for an out when he does cheat. Marriage counseling.
It sounds like he is trying to stay away from her and be upfront with you. He should tell her to leave him completely alone. She sounds scary. Change all numbers, emails and everything, you might have to legal-up on her crazy stalker but*.
Just forget about it – its just a bit of escapism – like reading a romance novel or going to cinema
You only need to worry if he strikes up a regular relationship and starts having feelings for her
The fact that he said no to meeting, means everything is ok
You can always give a man a total ultimatum…no contact whatsoever and if he breaks that pact then move on from there and decide if you can trust him or not………….I am coming to believe once a cheater always a cheater…even if he hasnt had sex with someone else, is there someone he is becoming emotionally attached to?
It may hold true for a little while, but leopards don’t change their spots.
unless his punishment is severe enough that he gets the message, that "Cheating is a deal breaker". He eventually will do it again, because he has already gotten away with it once. he will also be more careful, so as not to get caught. See how far he will go to hold your marriage together, if he shows any resistance on "any demand" you make, no matter how big or how small, he is not worthy.
Also, sending pictures of your genitals to "Anyone" much less another woman, is a little more sinister than you would like to believe.
Well, this is hard but no one made him send a pic but himself.
He could have easily hung up the phone on her, but he didn’t.
I’ve been on the other end before and all us women have to do is entice and make the man hard.
It’s up to the man to either give in to tempation, or hang up the phone and ignore the whole situation …..
Sorry …
when backed into a corner some men come out lying their a$$ off. you don’t just send someone a picture of your private area unless something has been going on. something like that would indicate to me that something has already been going on in the past. How do you know he turned her down before…and that she hasn’t already drove from another state? Changing passcodes is not going to stop it if he wants to communicate with her. Good luck.