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My bf likes to dirty talk or do the whole phone sex thing since I’m away at school….and I love to get kinky, whatever, during sex but the whole verbal aspect of it all has really got me tongue tied.

1. I can’t even tell when he’s doing it….lol
EX. he’s asked me a couple times if he’s hurt me….I, stupidly, thought he was expressing concern! lol…..oops….so I was like "no!!! u dont hurt me, dont worry" …..FINALLY (after his many failed attempts) he just answered his own question, sort of, by following up the question with "you just cant take it, it hurts u so bad, doesnt it?" hahah I got it after that and played along as if i knew what he was doing the whole time….I just wish I wasn’t so slow at this! Sometimes he does it on the phone, when we’re not even talking sexually to initiate sex-talk and I get SO confused.

3. I have some pretty dirty thoughts of my own….verbalizing them makes me feel a bit akward….
I do eventually "let go" (esp. if its over the phone) and start saying things…but then he might say "really?" and I’m thinking (oh jeez, is this a good "really?" or a WTF "really?"….) and I get all screwed up again….not comfortable….he likes doing lots of crazy stuff, which makes me feel better about verbalizing crazy ideas, but I don’t exactly know his personal limits…and i asked him about his limitations and it was pointless….i know he’s "nasty" but what if I prove to be "nastier"? like, to the point where it seems excessive and he gets turned off?

3. DO WE REALLY HAVE TO TALK ABOUT IT?!?!? i get sooooo turned off when we do…..it makes it better the next time we do have sex tho bc sometimes we do learn a little bit about what the other person wants, but overall, I really just dread those conversations…and when they’re in person/during sex?? I dry up like the sahara…sex is amazing bc its fun…once the talking starts, it just becomes too much of a mental process….

4. HE turnes me off when he does it!
I mean, when he talks like that, even if the image of what he’s saying is awesome, he reminds me of Ron Jeremy from the movie Boondock Saints when he’s in the arcade jerking off…..lol…..and once that image comes into play, all sexy thoughts go out the window

WHAT DO I DO?!!?

Any tips? I WANT to be able to get over this all and join in on the dirty talk…..but seriously….how?

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