Is it considered cheating if your husband is talking to over 100 women online?
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My husband has been spending alot of time on the computer, so I went into his yahoo messenger one day, and discovered he has almost 200 women on his list. I changed his preferences so it would save all his conversations. Over the last 2 months, he has had over 3000 conversations or attempts at conversations. He is very explicit and dirty in what he wants, and alot of these women are more than happy to oblige. He is viewing them on their cams, and exchanging photos. He has one certain woman that he talks to every day, and they tell each other how much they love one another, and alot of the times, he’s telling these women that he is single, when he is married with a 4 yr. old son, and another child on the way. Is this cheating? What should I do about it? I can hardly stand to look at him at this point, let alone have him touch me, and he doesn’t know why. Should I confront him?
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send out a message he has an STD and then change his password
yes
yes he is cheating, focusing on the other woman instead of his marriage. he is looking for someone to have an affair with. when he is so focused on these things he can’t show too much interest in his marriage. personally if u can’t trust him, what good is he to u? as trust is the glue that holds the marriage together.
Post ur son’s picture as his avatar picture and tell all the junkies that he is not available on his messenger.And then confront him that tis is not the father my son wanted.Nip the bud while it is right!
You have a very complex question that has a very complex answer. YES, YOU HAVE TO TALK TO HIM.
In the relationship both people have to be in agreement. Some relationships the other may not care if he made these actions, but clearly you do – this means there is a problem.
You confront, you discuss, your relationship changes for the positive (even if at first its negative). I’m no Dr Phil, but cheating starts with thoughts not actions. Cheating is a mental thing and it does appear he is already living that mind.
O my god he sound just like me!
OH YES this is cheating!
He is having mental affairs and getting off with other women!!……………even if it IS in cyber land, its still cheating……….believe me it will go further Ive seen it happen.
He probably already is cheating in the "real world" too…….have you noticed him go out more often? or making excuses to go places?…………..try to think of any differences? Are there times when you wanted to go with him but he made an excuse for you not to go????
Confront him, he is not being faithful!
Oh …..you could log into his messenger and talk to these women oneday….then tell them its YOU and not HIM…………..be sneaky!
yes confront him and tell him that you know about it and that it makes you sick at this point you will either save your marriage or not but you need to get it out in the open.you need to think about the axample he is setting for your children as they are going to grow up watching this and thinking that is o.k. Yuor decision to make but keeping it in the dark will only make it worse.best of luck and congrat’s on your upcoming birth
Now you have two hundred new people to contact and let them know what your husband has been doing. You know it is cheating the question is what are you going to do about it…accept it or move on with your life.
how would he feel if you were talking explicitly with two hundred men. No doubt about it, he is cheating…purposefully hurting you and that ruins the relationship.
helll ya
dump him
he’s a fu-ckin cheater
kick him outa the house
print out all the conversation
and picures
then go to divorcing place
when he comes home,
you may throw the papers in front of him
Yes it is only a few steps before he physically cheats.
It seems like he is a liar and leading a double life. Do not be mad at these women, they think he is single and do not know about you or your son. Your husband has some issues, you need to ask him what exactly he wants.
you should definetely confront him about this,,,,it isnt cheating in the sense as so many women cannot all be special,,he seems to be lacking excitement and feels this is the way to go.his behavior however is harmful to you and your marriage and he needs to know it,,,,talking online to women is fine but only in the right context and as he is lying about who he is he doesnt want them too close obviously and this is probably part of the excitement too. he could just chat to other women and be totally honest about who/what/where he is,,the fact he is married with children as likely so many of these women are too and that would surfice but where is the excitement in that,they wont want him as much if at all.be upfront about how this is making you feel,,let him know you dont want him touching you as you feel ‘cheated on’,he has a family that wont be there much longer if he doesnt notice them as he should be doing,,. this will likely have become habit as computers often do and he needs to break this habit because he could lose all of you for ‘relationships’ that are not even real.if there is one woman in particular you need to ask him directly what he is getting from her,,be it someone to talk to,,someone with whom he is honest with about you,the kids,,ordinary things that could be talked about while you are present but not paranoid about,,we all have friends and some are online but if those friendships are secret there must be a reason. if she is just someone who he can ‘play’ with she needs to go,this is not healthy.no one needs 100,s of women to chat to,,there isnt enough time in the day.
To me he has already cheated! My husband starting to do the same thing but didn’t get too far, this is what I did. After he got done viewing pictures of half naked girls one day I snuck up on him and he was like "I have no idea how that pic got on the screen" I didn’t say anything, I went to the window over looking the driveway (3 floors up) opened it, walked back to the cpu, unplugged the monitor, picked it up and threw it out of the window! I had never done anything like that before so he was shocked! You shouldn’t have to worry about what your husband is doing, you have a child and one on the way. If he is talking to them the way you say he my guess is he is seeing them too! My now ex husband, divorced when our son was 3; meant up with his ex-girl after not seeing her for 12 years over the cpu. There is way too much temptation on the internet, but even without it if they can do it over the internet then they will do it anyway they can. There is no excuse for speaking/typing another women when you are married! I would confront him, get rid of the computer and hire a PI to see if he has taken it to the next level with anyone of them! I would have proof so that if anything happens you have something to back you up, print out the conversations (make two copies) make a pile and put them infront of him at the dinner table on his plate and keep the other hidden from him! Make sure your 4 yr old is not home, they should not have to witness this. I feel for you, really. It is going to be hard, he is going to give you every excuse, but the truth is he is cheating, and you deserve more! If you ever need to talk you can e-mail me. Good luck, be strong and DO NOT LET HIM GET AWAY WITH THIS!!
Yes I would say that is cheating and more than disrespectful. This isn’t just reading a magazine these are real people with real intrests in your husband whom apparently has real intrests in them. I mean comparitivley speaking how much time do you get with him? As much as the computer? How would he feel if the shoe was on the other foot. It is disturbing to me to think what I would do if I were to find out my husband were doing the same thing. I would confront him and seek professional advice, and marrige counseling.
Has he actually cheated, does he have the opprotunity? There are two sides to every story. i am not saying he is right but he is obviously searching for something he is not getting or does not have. If he has not physically cheated its all just fantasy at this point. You could just monitor everything and see not make matters worse by sabotaging his messenger.
Maybe you guys need some more spice in your life or something, just my opinion.
First off let me say you must be alot nicer than me, I would have been livid and couldn’t have kept my mouth shut for even a day.
Yes this is cheating he is obtaining sexual pleasure from another women other than you. He is seeking something and he is hiding it from you. You should confront him and tell him that what he is doing is wrong and you won’t stand for it. Then ask him if it has went any further than the computer?
My question to you would be how does your husband build up a list of 200 women over 2 months time and you not know it?
This is a fine reason why even if you trust your husband you should still be aware of his world all the time.
Yes, it certainly is cheating. My H did this also. To my knowledge he has stopped. He had a very intimate friend whom he met on yahoo personals, listed as a single. It has broken my heart that he has done this to me. The fact that your husband is talking to 100’s of women makes me think you may be dealing with an addiction. I don’t have any advice for you at all, sorry. My husband is behaving himself right now, but the first time I see him showing any more activity on the singles sights I am throwing our computer out the window. Our fidelity is more important to me than our internet/computer. After all we were getting by fine 12 years ago before we had it. Sometimes I wonder how much good the internet has done our society in general considering how many marriages it has caused to end because of this situation.
Of course, confront him. Let it all out. Internet is killing your marriage. He should not be on the computer longer than the time needed to check for legit emails etc. which is about half to one hour each day. If he doesn’t want to stop, unsubscribe from internet.
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