Girl Nasty

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OKAY, so to begin, I am
FILIPINO AND BLACK with a bit chinese and native american.

NOW, my normal hair texture (before i relaxed it)
was REALLLY long, almost past my back.
It was also pretty curly. Here let me give you an example:

ERR never mind, I cant find anyones hair that looks
exactly like it.

All I can say is that it was very THICK, LONG, and CURLY (some people might call it wavy/curly though).

So one day, I heard people talking about relaxers and I asked my mom,"What is a relaxer?" or maybe it was my sister. They told me what it was and I was really interested. PEOPLE ARE NEVER HAPPY WITH WHAT THEY ALREADY HAVE.

Okay, so it makes hair straight….

So I asked them… should I relax my hair?
They said SUREEE and I didn’t think it would be
a big deal because it would grow out, right?
Plus, I was sick of dealing with my thick hair and having to brush it out EVERY SINGLE DAY. but now with this ugly hair that I have I would love it any day.

SO, my Filipino mom relaxed it in the bathroom during the day.
(I WAS 13)

I washed it off and everything but when I looked in the mirror, it looked the same. That was until it dried. It wasn’t as puffy and curly. it was practically WAVY and an inch longer. SOOOO i was happy with it. It wasn’t that big of a difference.

THEN, I decided to relax it again a few months later because my hair was growing out EXTREMELY fast (that’s just how it grows). My sister was like," IF IT LOOKED THAT NICE WHEN YOU FIRST RELAXED IT, IMAGINE HOW IT WOULD LOOK LIKE IF YOU DID IT AGAIN!"

and so I was convinced. (Me now being a year older).

I did it and it came out almost STRAIGHt.
but still wavy.
i HATED IT.
I HATE MY HAIR.
I HATE HOW UGLY IT IS.

It’s been so damaged because of only the 2 TIMES
i had relaxed it in a lifetime.

Now, it is SOOOO curly, VERY short and barely past my back like it used to be, 5 DIFFERENT TEXTURES, DRY AND DISGUSTING TO TOUCH.

and let me tell you, this is from only relaxing 2 times out of my whole life.

when i relaxed it the second time, everything was even. it was all wavy/straight. as it began to grow out, i realized it didn’t look the same as before I relaxed it. it was ultra curly and tight and very dry.

my baby hairs haven’t grown out and it’s been almost a year since I first relaxed it.

My hair used to grow VERY fast. Almost 3-4 inches in ONE MONTH.

Now it takes more than 6 months just to grow out a few baby hairs that are 4 inches long.

I am completely disgusted.
People are never happy with what they have.

Now I look back at my pictures of when
I was a year younger before I ever relaxed my hair and
I am so angry.

I feel ugly. Everyday I have to touch this hair where its frizzy at the top and wavy/straight/curly at the middle and bottom. I put it in a bun and it still looks HORRID.

It wont even grow out and its been more than 6 months now.
All thats grown out is about 3 inches.

I need some ideas of what I should do with my hair.
Do you think that it will ever go back to how long and curly/wavy it used to be? or do you think it will stay this dry and nasty even after all of it grows out?

PLEASE give me some ideas.

Should I just shave my head and start of new?
I dont think I would look good bald because everyone
says that if I was, I would look like a boy.

Im just a kid and it’s not like I have a completely mature face.
So any professionals out there who have any comments/tips please post a comment and give me some ideas.

Thanks for your help all.